It's been a tumultuous couple of weeks. A lot of things have recently been put into perspective for me. We are fragile.... our bodies and minds. One mistake or many once we go too far we can rarely take it back. There is only moving forward beyond the hurt, and to figure out how next time WILL be different. This life we only live once.
Single dad has been mostly silent. We hung out twice in the last two weeks for a little bit. We didn't stay the night, and he seemed a bit dismayed about that. I on the other hand am more than happy. He's not right for me; I'm not going to convince myself that he is. I deserve more and I will not settle.
With Single Dad I told him exactly how I felt when he asked me. I was honest and vulnerable. As I know now, he was not quite the same with me, and I am glad I have stuck to being friends with no benefits. We make much better friends than anything else. He is still working on his issues and I believe he drinks a bottle of denial each and every night!
It amazes me how self-indulgent/self centered a person can be. Single dad made some reference to sex last week and I replied that he should take care of himself in the shower (I was the only one who thought it was funny...ha-ha still do) He was so convinced that I was still into him, despite me telling him that I went out with a very hot younger man the night before or maybe it was because I told him about that date. Maybe he was just trying to convince himself?
Anyways, I am in agreement with Aussie Gal.... nice guys do still exist. They are however rare. I am starting to feel a bit old. And most guys my age (or a bit younger/older) seem complicated. They've either been married and are now divorced, have babies with multiple women, have kids but never see them, have severe commitment issues and could never be in a relationship long enough to even get married, or are so lonely that they constantly contact you and plead for you to go out with them or they think they are still in high school and want to act like a player. Then there are the nice guys, just as there are nice girls. It's just a matter of taking your time, being honest, patient, and going for what you really want and not settling for anything less.
Hot Mama
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Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Monday, February 13, 2012
I Think Nice Guys Do Exist
Have I met one of rarest species on Earth??? The nice guy…
A week ago I went to the pub to have a drink for a solo celebration of my divorce being finalized. Towards the end of the night I ended up meeting a couple of guys. The conversation was easy… Could have had something to do with the number of beers had but anyway…I felt comfortable handing my number over. The next day I get a message to catch up again that night. Why not? What have I got to lose…
Nice Guy Indicator #1…. I got a text from him saying that he was going to be 5 minutes late. That made a very good impression. For one I don’t like being late. If anything I’m always early. I don’t like being kept waiting so I don’t make others wait for me. But these days people will just show up 5 minutes late. They don’t give you a heads up.. After all it is only 5 minutes.
So we had a few casual drinks. It was pretty much a get to know you kinda thing… What movies do you like? Music? Etc But still easy and comfortable. May have made the mistake of telling him about this blog because he is probably reading this right now… So shout out to D!!!!!
Every couple of days he would send a text. And then he invited myself and Miss M (who previously was known as my roomy but because we don’t live together anymore she gets her own name) to go out with him and his friends this weekend.
Nice Guy Indicator #2…. His friends. Although he jokingly called them dysfunctional they were all nice people. Fun and friendly. Easy to get along with. I believe that your friends say something about the person that you are. If you hang with assholes then well… you know.
So throughout the night he managed to throw out a couple of nice complimentary comments. It was fun. But also in a group of people you don’t get much time to spend one on one.
So we ended the night… or shall I say morning, by watching the sun come up on the beach. Something I have never done before.
Nice Guy Indicator #3…. He didn’t try to have sex with me. Massive brownie points here…. He crashed at my place… In my bed… With me… Now correct me if I’m wrong here but for the majority of guys if you are in bed with a girl you like you try to go there. Right? Well he didn’t… Wow.. This surprised me. If there was an attempt I would have shut it down, but I didn’t have to. So what does this tell me??? He is respectful. It wasn’t just about getting laid. Which is pretty much the impression that I get from most guys…
Nice Guy Indicator #4…. Miss M’s opinion. Apart from my sister she probably knows me the best. At times we can finish each others sentences. We can see a look on each others face and know exactly what the other is thinking. So we had a debrief after the night. She has given the thumbs up. He and all of his friends came across as very genuine people. She had a good feeling about it.
I think nice guys do exist!!!!!!
Aussie Gal
P.S. Have you heard, our online clothing store is finally open for business! www.sharetheloveclothing.com
In keeping with our edgy and bold message, and inspired by our love of Miami, www.sharetheloveclothing.com is the sister wild child to Love Bites. Alive with fun and vibrant designs, each piece of Share the Love clothing stands alone, marked by individuality, a colorful appeal and a cheeky sense of humor.
A week ago I went to the pub to have a drink for a solo celebration of my divorce being finalized. Towards the end of the night I ended up meeting a couple of guys. The conversation was easy… Could have had something to do with the number of beers had but anyway…I felt comfortable handing my number over. The next day I get a message to catch up again that night. Why not? What have I got to lose…
Nice Guy Indicator #1…. I got a text from him saying that he was going to be 5 minutes late. That made a very good impression. For one I don’t like being late. If anything I’m always early. I don’t like being kept waiting so I don’t make others wait for me. But these days people will just show up 5 minutes late. They don’t give you a heads up.. After all it is only 5 minutes.
So we had a few casual drinks. It was pretty much a get to know you kinda thing… What movies do you like? Music? Etc But still easy and comfortable. May have made the mistake of telling him about this blog because he is probably reading this right now… So shout out to D!!!!!
Every couple of days he would send a text. And then he invited myself and Miss M (who previously was known as my roomy but because we don’t live together anymore she gets her own name) to go out with him and his friends this weekend.
Nice Guy Indicator #2…. His friends. Although he jokingly called them dysfunctional they were all nice people. Fun and friendly. Easy to get along with. I believe that your friends say something about the person that you are. If you hang with assholes then well… you know.
So throughout the night he managed to throw out a couple of nice complimentary comments. It was fun. But also in a group of people you don’t get much time to spend one on one.
So we ended the night… or shall I say morning, by watching the sun come up on the beach. Something I have never done before.
Nice Guy Indicator #3…. He didn’t try to have sex with me. Massive brownie points here…. He crashed at my place… In my bed… With me… Now correct me if I’m wrong here but for the majority of guys if you are in bed with a girl you like you try to go there. Right? Well he didn’t… Wow.. This surprised me. If there was an attempt I would have shut it down, but I didn’t have to. So what does this tell me??? He is respectful. It wasn’t just about getting laid. Which is pretty much the impression that I get from most guys…
Nice Guy Indicator #4…. Miss M’s opinion. Apart from my sister she probably knows me the best. At times we can finish each others sentences. We can see a look on each others face and know exactly what the other is thinking. So we had a debrief after the night. She has given the thumbs up. He and all of his friends came across as very genuine people. She had a good feeling about it.
I think nice guys do exist!!!!!!
Aussie Gal
P.S. Have you heard, our online clothing store is finally open for business! www.sharetheloveclothing.com
In keeping with our edgy and bold message, and inspired by our love of Miami, www.sharetheloveclothing.com is the sister wild child to Love Bites. Alive with fun and vibrant designs, each piece of Share the Love clothing stands alone, marked by individuality, a colorful appeal and a cheeky sense of humor.
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