You Are Not The Boss Of Me!!!

I've chosen not to write for the last few weeks not because I don't have stories to tell, but rather because I have witnessed first hand the domino effect that words taken out of context can cause. I do not fear the haters, but I am more mindful of what I disclose about my feelings. I do not want to get involved in a soap opera, but I also will not allow the ghosts of relationships past to control how I live my life today.
What are the guarantees in life?....I'll give you a minute...There is only one, you will die!... Whatever you do in between is up to you. I do sincerely believe that our happiness is for the most part under our control, we cannot rely on others for that. Interdependence is necessary for our survival, but we cannot walk blindly. In relationships, there are bonds formed from trust and interdependence, when those bonds weaken so does our relationships. It is always hard and sometimes it seems impossible to pick yourself up after a relationship ends, doesn't matter who's to blame.
As I read the contributions of the other writers on this blog, I admit that it is hard for me to completely relate to the pain they have experienced. And please don't take that in the wrong context. My most traumatic life event was watching my mother die. After that, I wouldn't say I became cold, but rather it gave me a new lease on life. The way she lived her life, the manner in which she treated others, her strong belief in karma.
The JSRs will get their turn to experience the heartaches, we need to be mindful of how we treat others. When we are innocent bystanders, we have no choice but to pick up the pieces and rebuild our lives. But as innocent bystanders we need to be very careful that we do not become like those that have wronged us. The biggest "fuck you" to the JSRs of the world, is to rebuild our lives and show them how insignificant they have become. Remember hate begets hates.

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
Martin Luther King, Jr.

"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear."
Martin Luther King, Jr.

"Have we not come to such an impasse in the modern world that we must love our enemies - or else? The chain reaction of evil - hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars - must be broken, or else we shall be plunged into the dark abyss of annihilation."
Martin Luther King, Jr.

"Nonviolence means avoiding not only external physical violence but also internal violence of spirit. You not only refuse to shoot a man, but you refuse to hate him."
Martin Luther King, Jr.

"We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies."
Martin Luther King, Jr.

"Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don't complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don't bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live!"
Bob Marley

Devils Advocate (aka McDreamy and Mark)