The Great Debate

So just a few days before the shit storm of unproductive verbal abuse came my way I had been asking The Man the same questions I had been hoping to hear from JSR all this time. Coincidentally last week the voice of the infamous JSR and his wife, whom I will now refer to as Mrs. JSR, came into the Love Bites arena to speak their minds. Unfortunately, instead of ever confronting the truth and answering the one and only question "why?" they detoured off topic and bitched about nothing in particular.
From the little I could get out of Mrs. JSR she seems to now be blaming me for the fallout. Which if you were to read the note he emailed me last year (read Poltergeist - April archives) and all the facts I have to back up my story isn't possible and is so far from the truth.

Facts:

1) He initiated contact.
2) He wanted to meet on multiple occasions
3) I repeatedly voiced my concerns over his flirty language and increased attention towards me
4) I'm the fun girl which means you (wife) aren't
5) He wanted to introduce me to his wife and child (why would you want to introduce your much younger ex whatever to your much older new wife? That's a bit odd)
6) Let's not forget that just a few weeks ago JSR and SP were mighty friendly chatting away into the early morning hours online (apparently talking to a random person is deemed appropriate and considered quality time with the family)
7) I could go on and on forever. I'll control myself.

I have re posted it below:

"I'm sorry I had to drop my conversation last night, but I found myself in an unpleasant situation. I am now stuck with the fact that my wife and I are not on good terms. I don't think this is your fault, but rather mine. I have tried to maintain a relationship, but it is hurting my family experience.
This isn't easy, but I am going to ask that you understand that I must follow my family as priority. This means I must make my wife feel at ease and let go of all of our contact. This is not by her request, but rather mine, as I want to make her feel at ease again. I ask for the sake of harmony that this be our last communication. I will be removing contact information and I hope you will do the same. And I am sorry this is what life is. May your family be both safe and blessed."
Best,
Jackass Sewer Rat (my editing)


Yet Mrs. JSR wants me to believe that I was Pandora’s box. That I was clinging onto them and needy. How could this be possible? Were my generous gifts thought to have a secret motive? When in fact I was innocently showing my support in his recent marriage and new baby. (Apparently sending back the PR shirts was too much in postage and handling I guess.) But, the baby gifts were simply because that's what I do for my friends when they are celebrating a monumental life event. Plus, it's an excuse to shop even if it's not for me.
Let me back up to the week prior to this note. The week in which I was introduced to JSR and company. The night before I received the note above I had initiated contact with JSR online (as he came up on my screen as online) to politely say, "It was good to see you and meet your wonderful wife and child last week. " That was all. Had I known that there was now a curfew on appropriate and inappropriate hours to speak online I suppose I would have emailed him in the morning with my pleasant and courtesy message, as we had not spoken since seeing each other in person. Which again I will point out the wife was present for. It's rather odd how prior to that meeting, it was perfectly acceptable for JSR to initiate contact with me online in the late night hours, yet for some odd reason after meeting we could no longer talk at any hour.
Another odd remark made by Mrs. JSR, she mentions how it was because I was successful that JSR thought to contact me out of the blue. Which then had me wondering, if I were an average Joe working for the man would he not have wanted to be my friend again? In addition, Mrs. JSR makes a point of saying that they were in bed together (with a computer and facebook) when I sent him that casual note and I obviously should have been spending the same quality time with my husband. While unfortunately John doesn't even know how to send an email (yes this is the truth) and well our quality time together didn't involve staring at a computer screen in bed. Bedrooms are for two things and neither one of those involves face booking in bed with my partner.
After reading Mrs. JSR's off the wall comments I reread the original email that started all this unnecessary drama and well now the letter really does speak volumes. Yet, Mrs. JSR either never saw the original email or is afraid of the truth right in front of her. For now let's assume that what JSR wrote in the note is from the heart and truthful. Let me get out the good old thesaurus and translate a few key phrases.

I must make my wife feel at ease again = MY WIFE IS JEALOUS

I'm sorry = I'M A DOUCHE BAG

I found myself in an unpleasant situation = MY WIFE IS JEALOUS

I'm sorry this is what life is = I'M IN A SEX LESS MARRIAGE AND I'VE JUST SIGNED A CONTRACT WITH THE DEVIL. BUT, I REALLY DO LOVE MY CHILDREN. PLEASE DON'T HATE ME AND THE FACT I HAVE NO BALLS.

So, now my question to you Mr. Man (The Man) in light of the last week’s conversations has your opinion on the illusive JSR and his wife changed? This question goes to any guy reading this. Whether you agree with my continued rant again JSR or not.

Okay so now that I've had my laughs I'm off to bed.
Sublime Happiness of a Guarded Heart